“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church.”
What a golden example Christ gives to his disciples! Few masters could venture to say, “If you would practise my teaching, imitate my life;” but as the life of Jesus is the exact transcript of perfect virtue, he can point to himself as the paragon of holiness, as well as the teacher of it. The Christian should take nothing short of Christ for his model. Under no circumstances ought we to be content unless we reflect the grace which was in him. As a husband, the Christian is to look upon the portrait of Christ Jesus, and he is to paint according to that copy. The true Christian is to be such a husband as Christ was to his church. The love of a husband is special. The Lord Jesus cherishes for the church a peculiar affection, which is set upon her above the rest of mankind: “I pray for them, I pray not for the world.” The elect church is the favourite of heaven, the treasure of Christ, the crown of his head, the bracelet of his arm, the breastplate of his heart, the very centre and core of his love. A husband should love his wife with a constant love, for thus Jesus loves his church. He does not vary in his affection. He may change in his display of affection, but the affection itself is still the same. A husband should love his wife with an enduring love, for nothing “shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” A true husband loves his wife with a hearty love, fervent and intense. It is not mere lip-service. Ah! beloved, what more could Christ have done in proof of his love than he has done? Jesus has a delighted love towards his spouse: He prizes her affection, and delights in her with sweet complacence. Believer, you wonder at Jesus’ love; you admire it—are you imitating it? In your domestic relationships is the rule and measure of your love—“even as Christ loved the church?”
Keep It: Step Three
Previously, we’ve talked about renewing your desire to have a great marriage and how to work at doing what God’s asked you to do to move closer to that great marriage.
Now it’s time to realize that having a great marriage is not a destination, but a journey. There is never going to come a day where you wake up and say “wow, I’ve arrived at a great marriage, I’m done.” Vicky and I understand that in order to have a great marriage we have to work at to keep it strong, to keep the passion for each another. Let me just say it doesn’t matter how long you been in your marriage you’re not done. The great marriage relationship is a journey. It’s a process that needs maintenance to keep from slipping back down into mediocrity.
Continue feeding your marriage with what you’ve previously learned from God’s word. Just like your body, your marriage needs constant nourishment.
Be consistent and do those things to show love to your spouse…even when you don’t feel like it or when your husband or wife doesn’t deserve it.
As you keep up the consistency, you’ll probably find that you no longer “work” at it, because you’ve readjusted your thinking to line up with God’s thinking. When you get to this point, loving your spouse the way God intended is becoming a habit.
Keep up the good work and remember that God wants you to have that great marriage.
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God wants to bless your marriage! But it is up to the husband, wife to seek what God’s Word say about the marriage relationship and also most important is not only to know what God’s Word says about marriage but also to put the Word into action into our marriage.
The last time I shared I mentioned that the first step towards a dream marriage which was to believe it’s possible and to rekindle your desire for it.
Vicky and I have been married 38 years and I truly can say that we have found a way to rekindle our passion for our marriage, no it not a perfect marriage but we have found it to better today then it was when we first started out in this journey together, one of the greatest reasons for that is that we found Jesus Christ as our Lord and Saviour and have made up our minds that He is in the center of our relationship!
Yet we must still seek to take that step to desire, believe that our marriage is great.
“Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4)
So you have renewed desire for a great marriage. Now it’s time to complete the rest of the steps to that marriage that we all so want…. to delight yourself in the Lord.
It time to do some work! Yes work marriage is work if want that marriage we all seek after it going to take work!
I think that some of you are now thinking it time to move on to another web site! Your thinking “If God wanted me to have a great marriage, then He would just make it happen.” Not let me tell you that just not going to happen! Why because Vicky and I have our faults that we have to deals with and we sometimes hurt each other!
So if were waiting on God to make our marriage great without each one doing their part to make it happen we will never have that great marriage. It not the way it works for the supernatural to happen. God has to something “natural” to add the “super” to.
And that natural part is reading and meditating on God’s Word, then putting into (work) action what He’s instructed.
If you seeking God and acting on His ways, then the Bible promises that He will He will give you the desires of your heart. Do what so many people and maybe even not even your spouse and do the work God has instructed you to do. You’ll find that He’ll give you the strength to do everything He’s asked, if you go into it with the right attitude.
Your first job is to check out 1 Corinthians 13 and 1 Corinthians 7. These are great portion of scriptures in the Bible on love and marriage.
Next Week Step # 3
As we enter into the month of February I want to give encouragement for marriages.
I truly believe that all couples that enter into marriage intend to keep their vows of till death do us part. We enter into in our marriage desiring to have the dream marriage. Admit it you want a great marriage.
I know that in today thinking so many are so quick to just walk out of the vows that they share that day when they were so in love “till death do us part” and now it till “I quit getting what I want in this marriage.” “ Till I fall out of love”
“We just have grown apart” “They just don’t understand me” the list is endless of the reasons to walk out of a marriage. Yes sometime one find themselves in an abusive situation whether it physical or mental God never intended one to be in a abusive situation in marriage but God’s plans for marriage was that the two would become one in their relationship and that they would model to their children to believe in the gift of marriage and pass it on to them what a great marriage should look like.
Now no wife grew up thinking “I can’t wait to get into a miserable marriage” And no husband got married thinking “I’m looking forward to this marriage becoming a huge weight around my neck”
But all to often, that’s what the marriage relationship turns into. If that’s you, then it’s time to rekindle the dream of having a great marriage. It may not be what you’d like right now, but you should have hope that the relationship with your spouse can become the type of marriage that others dream of having. Without hope, the marriage has nowhere to go.
God wants you to have a great marriage and remember the He tell us “that all things are possible to him who believes. Start desiring and believing for that great marriage.
It’s the first step in the right direction. To often we end up taking each other for granted, we get so busy with the raising of children, jobs, and everything else that comes with in life that cause us to maybe without knowing, forgetting that one we fell in love with and set out seek to live happily here after in our dream marriage.
I truly believe that every marriage can be that dream marriage that we all long that first step is start once again desiring and believing for that great marriage!
Next week step two
15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do–this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. 21 So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? 25 Thanks be to God–through Jesus Christ our Lord! (Romans 7:15-25a)
I have been thinking about a friend of mine who struggles with schizophrenia. They had a major breakthrough where God revealed what He wanted to do in their life. Before it was like there was a block in their understanding that finally has been penetrated by the light of God’s word. When walking on the road to deliverance; things that have been a part of our life for many years have become like, old companions, old friends. Deep down we know for freedom we need to release those things from our life and move on. When we find freedom from the bondage to our old sin nature, those old companions; habits that existed for rationalizing and protecting the destructive behavior try to crop backup. They try to pull us into relapse. If we stumble the enemy of our soul is right there screaming in your ear, “You have failed; why try for you are nothing but a failure.” But God is always right there reaching out to stand us back up and encourage us to try again.
18 “Come now, let us reason together,” says the LORD. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. 19 If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best from the land. (Isaiah 1:18-19 NIV)
God wants us to learn how to fall forward if we fall. It’s like running or climbing stairs, when become tired or even trip we want to lean forward. Then we fall to our hands and knees. When we regain our strength we get back up and press on. If we fall backwards we tumble down and are usually devastated by major injury. We all have struggles and weaknesses that can cause us to slip or encounter inner turmoil. When they come we need to press forward into His presence where we can reason through our issues with His help. We can have our wounds cleansed and be healed. If we fall backward or give up we suffer major devastation.
7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. 8 If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:7-9 NIV)
It’s this constant interaction in a mentoring relationship between us and our Heavenly Father that keeps us succeeding. God is there with any life learning process both emotionally and spiritually. When we fail or struggle God draws us to Himself and pours out his grace and mercy into our lives. But he always wants us to come and to never stop coming.
6 He gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” 7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. (James 4:6-8 NIV)
When rebellious desires, weaknesses and struggles come to oppose our growth and trust in God; just keep coming and the grace will be poured out to strengthen and empower us.
But where sin increased, grace increased all the more. (Romans 5:20b NIV)
14 Now that we know what we have – Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God – let’s not let it slip through our fingers. 15 We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all – all but the sin. 16 So let’s walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help. (Hebrews 4:14-16 the Message)
7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 8 So do not be ashamed to testify about our Lord, or ashamed of me his prisoner. But join with me in suffering for the gospel, by the power of God, 9 who has saved us and called us to a holy life–not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time, 10 but it has now been revealed through the appearing of our Savior, Christ Jesus, who has destroyed death and has brought life and immortality to light through the gospel. 11 And of this gospel I was appointed a herald and an apostle and a teacher. 12 That is why I am suffering as I am. Yet I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day. 13 What you heard from me, keep as the pattern of sound teaching, with faith and love in Christ Jesus. 14 Guard the good deposit that was entrusted to you–guard it with the help of the Holy Spirit who lives in us. (2 Timothy 1:7-14 NIV)
Now that we devoted ourselves to God, He has given us the Holy Spirit to guide and empower us, as we share the love of God with others. There are many demands and influences in our world that try to get us to forsake loving God and others. We see actions by major corporations and institutions that forsake really caring about others as they make decisions that protect and benefit themselves; as those decisions plummet many into free fall of a financial ruin which leaves them scrambling to just survive. “Professionalism” contains a sense of disassociation which enables executives, businessmen and government officials to make decisions with no sense of responsibility for the outcome of those decisions on others. There has been a redefining of business ethics which has enabled the recent moves on Wall Street and financial institutions. This caused companies to take bail outs from the government while having expensive seminars and retreats; huge bonuses while the rank and file are taking concessions or losing their jobs. We see things like: Enron, Bernard Madoff, the mortgage debacle involving Countrywide, Fannie Mae and Bernie Mac. Financial organizations have made cuts to bonuses for junior bankers while leaving those for the higher echelon intact. This has created an atmosphere that has everyone looking out for themselves, because they feel no one else will. God’s word calls us to a higher style of living.
13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. 17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. 18 Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. (James 3:13-18 NIV)
When Jesus was walking on the earth He foretold that this would come:
12 Sin will be rampant everywhere, and the love of many will grow cold. 13 But those who endure to the end will be saved. (Matthew 24:12-13 NLT)
God compels us to love one another, even to love our enemies, to consider others before ourselves. When the worry and fear hits us let the perfection of God’s love at work in us overcome the trends, which are abandoning God’s will.
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18 NIV)
We can be free to Love the way God wants us to. We can rest in knowing that when we obey Him He will take care of the rest.
“I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day.”
1 The desert and the parched land will be glad; the wilderness will rejoice and blossom. Like the crocus, 2 it will burst into bloom; it will rejoice greatly and shout for joy. The glory of Lebanon will be given to it, the splendor of Carmel and Sharon; they will see the glory of the LORD, the splendor of our God. 3 Strengthen the feeble hands, steady the knees that give way; 4 say to those with fearful hearts, ”Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution he will come to save you.” 5 Then will the eyes of the blind be opened and the ears of the deaf unstopped. 6 Then will the lame leap like a deer, and the mute tongue shout for joy. Water will gush forth in the wilderness and streams in the desert. 7 The burning sand will become a pool, the thirsty ground bubbling springs. In the haunts where jackals once lay, grass and reeds and papyrus will grow. (Isaiah 35:1-7 NIV)
When there was a time of great prosperity and there were no struggles it is easy to get caught up with everything and not have time for the one who provides that prosperity. Now the struggles are great and the prosperity has dried up. Cities are being taken over by state emergency managers because they are bankrupt. Programs and staffing is being cut and crime is increasing. When all we have is man’s foresight and understanding everything will seem hopeless. That’s when people take things in their own hands and make the mess bigger.
God will use their self-endeavor to frustrate the people and communities who won’t give Him time or honor. He uses hard times as a wakeup call for those who have just forgotten to include Him in their lives. “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:14 NIV)
When you are in the time of dryness; when “famine” is all around you just press into God’s care, protection and Love. He will forgive the self-will and self-endeavor, and He will heal the damage caused by those choices that left Him out. Then the areas affected by “famine” start showing the signs of restoration by God’s hand. New growth starts springing up in unexpected or even impossible ways. Not only in your circumstances but as God is glorified others see Him working in your life and turn to Him also. Then what God is doing for you begins to spread to them also. Even the darker areas of our surroundings start being affected where there is self-centered aggression; they begin to be drawn to change. When you are fully under His umbrella of “redemption” you are at rest, the joy and peace you experience just boggles the minds of those who are going it on their own. They want the joy and peace you have.
When Jesus is lifted up he will draw all men unto himself, both on the cross and in every area of your life, so that He is glorified not us.
“We know that in everything God works for the good of those who love him.” (Romans 8:28a NCV)
We are coming into the New Year; we take this time to take stock of what we have accomplished in the past years. We are trying to evaluate our choices and determine the changes we will make for the year to come. We make resolutions and attack them with great fervor. Just too shortly after, become discouraged and let them fall by the way side. Then we are disheartened and beat ourselves up, because we failed at being resolute about our decided changes.
With the economy and all the bad news that we have been bombarded with; we can be easily overwhelmed by the hardness of the struggle of daily life. With jobs being lost and trouble finding new ones to replace them. Rising prices make the cost of living harder to manage. In the hard times we need to sit back and really look at how blessed we really are. There are many things that make our life easier that were scarce to nonexistent even twenty years ago. But we think of them as every day or commonplace. Even indoor plumbing, electric lights and central heating can be easily taken for granted.
If we sit back and look at the past years through the eyes of trust and gratitude we can see the hand of God orchestrating our experiences. When we count our blessings we begin to be overwhelmed with joy; and trust in the God who loves us and puts in place the things we need to really succeed in doing his will.
“16 Be cheerful no matter what; 17 pray all the time; 18 thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Msg.)
When we realize the magnitude of all that God has done for us individually, and that He will never leave us alone. It becomes easy to just relax and let God determine the plans and directions. Then we can rest and allow Him to be in charge and just submit to His will. There is just so much inner peace when we learn to enjoy that rest He has for us. When we learn to consider it pure joy to just bask in the love He has and is lavishing on us. And dwell in the presence of the source of that love. Whatever comes our way; where ever He leads us; we are confident that it is all going to work out for our good. Because all good things come down from our heavenly father!
“20 So our hope is in the Lord. He is our help, our shield to protect us. 21 We rejoice in him, because we trust his holy name.” (Psalm 33:20-21 NCV)
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28).
A few people will get tickets to the Super Bowl or the next World Series. the rest of us will just watch it on T.V. Some people are given invitations that are exclusive to only a few people to come to certain events. In light of all the exclusive opportunities in life, Jesus’s inclusive invitation falls on our ears like music, like dew in the desert: Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
We should enjoy thoses words especially the word all. Let the invitation roll over and over in your heart. “Come to me” Our Savior says. He speaks to “all who are weary and burdened.” Does that include you?
What wearies and burdens you right now? When we find ourselves in the long, dark tunnel of wearies and burdens, Jesus meets us there. just think of that! Jesus meets us there in those dark places, those dark times when we feel lost.
And His presence and his promises transforms the darkness, making even our weariness and our burdens a blessing. Just think about it theses times, things have opened our eyes and our hearts to His invitation. They drive us into our Savior’s embrace! It is good to let his words of hope and promises tranform our pain, it is good to trust our Savior’s promise to forgive, to heal, to help.
It’s good when we rest in His all - inclusive love!
“Come to Me” now those are words for encouagement for you and I
Thou will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee; because he trusteth in thee. Trust ye in the Lord for ever for in the Lord Jehovah is everlasting life. (Isa. 26:3,4)
The words of these verses in the Word were given to help and strenghten the faith and hope of God’s people thoughout the ages. They are just as applicable today as they were when they were first written. Every true child of God is safe and secure.
His mind is quiet and serene in the assurance of God’s favor if he will trust and believe the Lord. “Thou will keep him in perfect peace.” What an wonderful promise! The world cannot understand this promise because the world has never known the peace that God gives to His children. You see, God’s gift is peace inner peace, outward peace, a peace with God, a peace of conscience, and a peace at all times and in all things. It is a perfect peace for those who minds are stayed on God, because they trust Him.
We can find the peace that passes understanding by trusting in the Lord forever. In the Lord Jehovah in Him who was and is and is to come we find the Rock of Ages. God is firm and sure foundation for our faith and hope to build upon. And if we build upon the Rock, our homes will withstand all the storms of life. And that is encouagement for you and I, ….”for in the Lord JEHOVAH is everlasting strenght!